RELAXING IS ALSO... PROFESSIONAL
LIVE FOR REALITY NOT ANY OTHER SPACE OR TIMEYou can't relax thinking about yesterday or worrying about what's going to happen tomorrow. That actually contradicts the relaxation principle. Learning to live “here” and “now” is the key to finding a sense of calm, balance, and at the heart of all mindfulness practices. Living with reality is extremely meaningful. After all, how do you enjoy a quality vacation (happy with your kids or quiet with your lover) if you're just present and your mind isn't really there? A trick to help you focus on the present is to practice 5 minutes of mindfulness meditation, without worrying too much about whether you've done it correctly or not. Just sit quietly and focus on your breathing without distractions for 5 minutes. Notice when the mind starts to wander and thoughts appear, immediately bring your attention back to "here" and "now". Keeping nothing from happening for 5 minutes, the goal is to practice controlling concentration . When you do that well, you'll be able to put your focus where you want it, and not be led by distractions. SPENDING TIME WITH NATURE A Stanford University study has shown that the time you spend in nature can reduce your tendency to focus on negative things – especially thoughts about yourself. It's the kind of contemplative contemplation that can poison, even ruin, all the best rest plans. So let nature help: Get in the habit of going outside for a breath of fresh air, during your lunch break or phone calls, or going for a walk after work... DISCONNECT EVERY DAY When was the last time you enjoyed your free time without a phone, computer, television or technology device? Sometimes, just turning off the switch is not enough, you have to unplug the entire power supply from the machine. Take a step away from the strangely busy world of the internet, get rid of the buzz of new email/text notifications and ignore the immediate access to technology, to give yourself some time to recover. Follow the habit of Jeff Weiner , the founder of LinkedIn, who said he always spends 90 minutes a day doing nothing. Or try to get out of the “information and facts spiral” for 30 minutes a day. If that doesn't seem possible, start with 5-10 minutes, and then gradually increase it. It sounds very difficult, but it's not as bad as you think. Not only are you giving your brain the rest it needs, but it's also a way to train yourself to set limits. After practicing like that, you will know how to rest and dare to let go in a short period of time. If you don't practice disconnecting and make it a daily habit, it's going to be very difficult to get rid of technology while on vacation. Then you'll experience more of a "detox" than relaxation. Remind yourself that anything you fear you'll miss will still be there when you reconnect. Combining all 3 exercises into one is a great idea: “Turn off the power”, go outside and practice mindfulness meditation! Step away from the stuffy walls, temporarily put away all technology devices and then immerse yourself and listen to nature. Participating in a meaningful activity can stimulate creativity and reduce stress levels . Before you know it, your mind already has a "muscle" strong enough to regain calm, balance, and clarity. Relax like a pro, and you'll get more value out of your downtime than ever before.